I want to see the day when an AI robot in a weightlifting contest, when in the third round, determined to beat its competitor, ends up with a torn rotator cuff or drops the weight on its back. Then, they will have come of age. A blood curdling scream would be nice too.
They're definitely a vision of the future, and not a good omen unfortunately. A robot dominated battlefield where humans are at a severe disadvantage due to speed, strength, intelligence, endurance & visual acuity. It has been forseen by many, many sci-fi writers, but it may well be under 5 years away. Heaven help the Geneva Conventions. There won't even be a pretense at meeting them. If it moves: it's a combatant. No such things a civilians.
The pace of development is incredible. On a purely technological basis, their development is staggering.
Non-complaint: Wheee..., so many interesting (though pricey) events during this part of the summer. Nephew's birthday party last Saturday. BFF high school friend is in town from NYC. Tomorrow is the long postponed appointment (postponed by cardiologist, not me). I managed to get my appointment changed from the inconvenient 3:00 time that they had picked, to a more reasonable & convenient time for me, of 10:20AM. Arranged with BFF to pick me up about 11:30 at the medical center to go for our semi-annual luncheon. That saves him a trip out into the boonies to pick me up in the morning. Also, since the appointment is in the morning I can take the one-and-only bus from my house into the city at 8:00AM. And since I've been trying to get to a long established, locally famous, breakfast restaurant in the middle of the city, just two blocks from the medical center, I finally will be able to sample their menu. Then a quick toddle down the hill to the medical center, then go to lunch with BFF at Olive Garden in the mall area on the far side of the city, then finally, after six months trying, get to the nearby J.C. Penney's department store for some proper clothes shopping, and a ride home to end the adventure. Wheee..., busy day, doctor satisfied, two good meals, new clothes, renewed friendship, and able to unload juicy local gossip. No complaints. And then in a couple of weeks, mid September, BFF is returning from NYC for our 60th, and final official high school reunion. Busy time of year for me. Happy, happy, joy, joy.
complaint: Three weeks since the last support payment came through. They're not regular, but they're not usually this late. Hoping the ex- didn't get canned again; I don't think he's ever kept a job longer that 2.5 years, and he's coming up on that for the current one. I emailed my caseworker to see if she could provide some info, but she's been singularly useless so far, so I don't have high hopes. And if he is unemployed, I'm sure I'll get the "oh but don't worry, it'll just accrue as arrears" line again... because knowing he'll eventually have to pay back the 0% interest loan I'm forced to float him... when it's not too inconvenient or hardship-inducing... is such a very big help right NOW.
complaint: Three weeks since the last support payment came through. They're not regular, but they're not usually this late. Hoping the ex- didn't get canned again; I don't think he's ever kept a job longer that 2.5 years, and he's coming up on that for the current one. I emailed my caseworker to see if she could provide some info, but she's been singularly useless so far, so I don't have high hopes. And if he is unemployed, I'm sure I'll get the "oh but don't worry, it'll just accrue as arrears" line again... because knowing he'll eventually have to pay back the 0% interest loan I'm forced to float him... when it's not too inconvenient or hardship-inducing... is such a very big help right NOW.
Now that's a mindset. "Oh, don't worry if you don't have any money. You''ll eventually get some." Can they tell the grocery store not to worry because they'll get paid eventually, too? I swear people that work jobs like that must have had their brains removed. Anyway, I'm sorry you're having to deal with the PITA ex. He needs a kick in the butt.
complaint: Three weeks since the last support payment came through. They're not regular, but they're not usually this late. Hoping the ex- didn't get canned again; I don't think he's ever kept a job longer that 2.5 years, and he's coming up on that for the current one. I emailed my caseworker to see if she could provide some info, but she's been singularly useless so far, so I don't have high hopes. And if he is unemployed, I'm sure I'll get the "oh but don't worry, it'll just accrue as arrears" line again... because knowing he'll eventually have to pay back the 0% interest loan I'm forced to float him... when it's not too inconvenient or hardship-inducing... is such a very big help right NOW.
I have a day-long migraine, so I am not very with it right now. @SilverGirl, I agree with Butterflyfish totally. Unfortunately I saw this with my son's wife's ex. He was abusive to her and the kids, and yet when my son and she married, refused to allow him to adopt the boy and girl. That would have given them access to his medical insurance and other benefits. The guy was rich, worked for his dad, and continually failed to pay child support, cover medical bills, and other requirements stipulated by the divorce. He is now abusing his new wife and child. And his kids are in college and don't want anything to do with him. My son set up college funds for them when he married their mother, and worked to make sure they had everything they needed.
As a single parent with one paycheck, I know how hard it is to cover the basics. Robbing Peter to pay Paul was my way of life for a long time.
You are a wonderful mom with two great kids, and fantastic parents. Hang in there.
@butterflyfish - I KNOW, RIGHT?? I've actually had caseworkers tell me that they'll contact him and remind him that he needs to pay. Lady, he knows. He's opting out. And then they're like "well, if you have a problem, you can take him to court." Okay. Let's break that down. I have to pay to file the paperwork to get a court case opened. I have to round up all the necessary proof and such. I have to find childcare for whatever time they decide, because kids aren't allowed either in the courtroom or to be proximal to virtual cases (I agree with this, kids shouldn't witness grown-up stuff like this, but still... burden on me). And at best, they.... OFFICIALLY remind him that he needs to pay up. At which point he will continue to not pay because there are no actual consequences that matter. Are there legal consequences that exsit? Yes. However, no one will enact them beacause they "don't want to create hardship for him, and that might make it harder for him to pay you." EXCUSE ME WHAT??
Dude spent our entire marriage saying "it's not like I'm legally obligated" any time he didn't want to perform some bit of basic decency. Turns out, even when he IS legally obligated, he doesn't do it.
@memcneil70 Wow, what a horrid situation. Those kids (and their mama) are lucky to have your son. It's amazing how some jerks just really want control, and they'll do whatever they can to have it. I hope his new wife and kid can get to safety. Thanks for the hang-in-there, though. We'll be okay. I've gotten through way worse and come out swinging. It's just so infuriating when the system seems to think "figure it out" belongs more with the person with the kids than with the deadbeat who treats adulthood like a giant game of One, Two, Three, Not-It.
@SilverGirl That sucks so much! Wow. Wouldn't want to create a hardship. SMDH. My kids' father was in prison for most of their childhood, so I got a whoppping $50/month from him. I supposedly could've asked for more or goltten back payments when he got out, but I figured I'd take what I could get and call it done with.
@memcneil70 That also sucks. I'm sorry your family went through that. My kids are no contact with their father, too. (Shocking, I know.) Good on your son for seeing those kids were taken care of. Not every guy would do that. You raised him well.
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I want to see the day when an AI robot in a weightlifting contest, when in the third round, determined to beat its competitor, ends up with a torn rotator cuff or drops the weight on its back. Then, they will have come of age.
A blood curdling scream would be nice too.
They're definitely a vision of the future, and not a good omen unfortunately. A robot dominated battlefield where humans are at a severe disadvantage due to speed, strength, intelligence, endurance & visual acuity. It has been forseen by many, many sci-fi writers, but it may well be under 5 years away. Heaven help the Geneva Conventions. There won't even be a pretense at meeting them. If it moves: it's a combatant. No such things a civilians.
The pace of development is incredible. On a purely technological basis, their development is staggering.
Regards,
Richard
Non-complaint: Wheee..., so many interesting (though pricey) events during this part of the summer. Nephew's birthday party last Saturday. BFF high school friend is in town from NYC. Tomorrow is the long postponed appointment (postponed by cardiologist, not me). I managed to get my appointment changed from the inconvenient 3:00 time that they had picked, to a more reasonable & convenient time for me, of 10:20AM. Arranged with BFF to pick me up about 11:30 at the medical center to go for our semi-annual luncheon. That saves him a trip out into the boonies to pick me up in the morning. Also, since the appointment is in the morning I can take the one-and-only bus from my house into the city at 8:00AM. And since I've been trying to get to a long established, locally famous, breakfast restaurant in the middle of the city, just two blocks from the medical center, I finally will be able to sample their menu.
Then a quick toddle down the hill to the medical center, then go to lunch with BFF at Olive Garden in the mall area on the far side of the city, then finally, after six months trying, get to the nearby J.C. Penney's department store for some proper clothes shopping, and a ride home to end the adventure. Wheee..., busy day, doctor satisfied, two good meals, new clothes, renewed friendship, and able to unload juicy local gossip. No complaints.
And then in a couple of weeks, mid September, BFF is returning from NYC for our 60th, and final official high school reunion. Busy time of year for me. Happy, happy, joy, joy.
complaint: Three weeks since the last support payment came through. They're not regular, but they're not usually this late. Hoping the ex- didn't get canned again; I don't think he's ever kept a job longer that 2.5 years, and he's coming up on that for the current one. I emailed my caseworker to see if she could provide some info, but she's been singularly useless so far, so I don't have high hopes. And if he is unemployed, I'm sure I'll get the "oh but don't worry, it'll just accrue as arrears" line again... because knowing he'll eventually have to pay back the 0% interest loan I'm forced to float him... when it's not too inconvenient or hardship-inducing... is such a very big help right NOW.
Now that's a mindset. "Oh, don't worry if you don't have any money. You''ll eventually get some." Can they tell the grocery store not to worry because they'll get paid eventually, too? I swear people that work jobs like that must have had their brains removed. Anyway, I'm sorry you're having to deal with the PITA ex. He needs a kick in the butt.
I have a day-long migraine, so I am not very with it right now. @SilverGirl, I agree with Butterflyfish totally. Unfortunately I saw this with my son's wife's ex. He was abusive to her and the kids, and yet when my son and she married, refused to allow him to adopt the boy and girl. That would have given them access to his medical insurance and other benefits. The guy was rich, worked for his dad, and continually failed to pay child support, cover medical bills, and other requirements stipulated by the divorce. He is now abusing his new wife and child. And his kids are in college and don't want anything to do with him. My son set up college funds for them when he married their mother, and worked to make sure they had everything they needed.
As a single parent with one paycheck, I know how hard it is to cover the basics. Robbing Peter to pay Paul was my way of life for a long time.
You are a wonderful mom with two great kids, and fantastic parents. Hang in there.
Mary
I knew it!
https://youtube.com/shorts/pTpuvLcIcaA?is=BQ6qDRoAXcsxwZLL
@butterflyfish - I KNOW, RIGHT?? I've actually had caseworkers tell me that they'll contact him and remind him that he needs to pay. Lady, he knows. He's opting out. And then they're like "well, if you have a problem, you can take him to court." Okay. Let's break that down. I have to pay to file the paperwork to get a court case opened. I have to round up all the necessary proof and such. I have to find childcare for whatever time they decide, because kids aren't allowed either in the courtroom or to be proximal to virtual cases (I agree with this, kids shouldn't witness grown-up stuff like this, but still... burden on me). And at best, they.... OFFICIALLY remind him that he needs to pay up. At which point he will continue to not pay because there are no actual consequences that matter. Are there legal consequences that exsit? Yes. However, no one will enact them beacause they "don't want to create hardship for him, and that might make it harder for him to pay you." EXCUSE ME WHAT??
Dude spent our entire marriage saying "it's not like I'm legally obligated" any time he didn't want to perform some bit of basic decency. Turns out, even when he IS legally obligated, he doesn't do it.
@memcneil70 Wow, what a horrid situation. Those kids (and their mama) are lucky to have your son. It's amazing how some jerks just really want control, and they'll do whatever they can to have it. I hope his new wife and kid can get to safety. Thanks for the hang-in-there, though. We'll be okay. I've gotten through way worse and come out swinging. It's just so infuriating when the system seems to think "figure it out" belongs more with the person with the kids than with the deadbeat who treats adulthood like a giant game of One, Two, Three, Not-It.
now they should do it in reverse
@SilverGirl That sucks so much! Wow. Wouldn't want to create a hardship. SMDH. My kids' father was in prison for most of their childhood, so I got a whoppping $50/month from him. I supposedly could've asked for more or goltten back payments when he got out, but I figured I'd take what I could get and call it done with.
@memcneil70 That also sucks. I'm sorry your family went through that. My kids are no contact with their father, too. (Shocking, I know.) Good on your son for seeing those kids were taken care of. Not every guy would do that. You raised him well.