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  • RKane_1RKane_1 Posts: 3,039

    Novica nailed it. Do exactly what Novica said. Nuff said. :)

  • RKane_1RKane_1 Posts: 3,039
    JasmineSkunk said:
    Update: I did try to talk to her. I began by trying to explain that Social Anxiety isn't shyness. That I'm not shy. Then I told her how being around people can sometimes make me feel stressed out. That it's not awkwardness or insecurity. That what happens to me is more like being exposed to a loud siren or alarm you can't turn off. Describing how an alarm can start to work your nerves and stress you out... just being around it. And that's how I feel around people sometimes. And then I explained that is why I keep to myself in my room, don't take phone calls, and retreat to solitude... That she shouldn't feel like it is personal. This is true of all people. ANY people. Even people I love and care about...She just kinda nodded and walked away. I could tell it hurt her feelings. Later, I heard her crying and talking to someone on the phone... Now when she sees me, she says "hello" and that's about it. It's a little awkward... But, strangely I feel relief along with the guilt... And the relief is stronger. Hoping things settle in the next few days, but so relieved to have my bubble back for the time being.

    Congratulations! Self-care is so important! I congratulate you! :)

  • nicsttnicstt Posts: 11,715
    RKane_1 said:
    nicstt said:

    Try and find out why she's being like she is.

    It may be that she is always like that, and there is advice here on how to cope; it may also be that she is being different to her norm, due to something; maybe that would also help you resolve the situation.

    No need. You should be able to respect a persons boundaries. if they can't, the problem is with them and with them to solve, not you. Please state your needs succintly, let them know you don't mean to be rude or offend them but that is what you need , and they need to figure it out on their own. IMHO.

    Im not discussing what is most appropriate but offering another suggestion for resolving the situation.

    Folks are big on rights, but less thrilled about responsibilities. I've no idea of the situation, and neither has anyone else offering advice.

  • JasmineSkunkJasmineSkunk Posts: 1,906
    edited October 2018
    Thanks, RKane. ☺️ And Everyone... ☺️
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