Hi wiibb…
There are a few ways you can see where your lights are pointing…
One is to select a light in the Scene tab and you should then see a reference cone in the viewport window coming from the light. You can adjust the size (spread) of the cone in the Parameters tab for the light.
The other is to look through the light itself… In the drop-down list above the viewport camera cube, the one where you choose Perspective or Camera, select your light and your view in the viewport will now be looking through the light itself.
You should also see circles in the viewport, those represent the spread of the light your looking though.
Both ways make it very easy to point and position the lights in the scene.
Hope this helps… 