One of the biggest problems in domestic situations is that people in these modern times have no idea about 2 things:
1) the power of the human musculature system
2) the fragility of the human body.
Society has so removed people from the real effects of violence that most have lost respect for the kind of danger represented by conflict. Sure, people see the extreme, stylized, Hollyweird violence. However that is almost always perpetrated by “big”, “strong” people. How many here know exactly how much power is contained in a single, openhanded strike by an averaged sized woman? Average sized man? One or two? What about the power contained in an untrained closed fist punch? Now, let us add the larger than average person to that equation and the extra force added by the extra mass. Anyone? Want to take a guess?
The simple fact is that when people have no respect for the kind of danger they are in, the temptation to perform hurtful acts increases. Few people will go into public and randomly select someone and then assail that person, verbally or otherwise. The reason is fear. One doesn’t know how a random person is going to react, and the base response is to not want to encounter danger. Yet, people will hurl the most hurtful insults, push the most sensitive buttons, dredge up the worst of past offenses from their “black book” and then accost the people close to them. Why? Lack of fear, lack of knowledge, and lack of respect.
As societies, we’ve not allowed children to scuffle. Under the guise of “it’s not nice,” or worse, “I don’t want to get sued.” However, those scuffles (both male and female) teach us what pain of conflict feels like when we don’t have the physical power necessary (usually) to actually cause permanently harmful damage. So children grow up not knowing what it feels like to be punched, slapped, having the hair pulled, or being gouged by finger nails. Most modern children don’t get black eyes or bloody noses anymore. Then when they get into fights with those most capable of causing emotional damage, they are unprepared for the consequences. Tempers flare and people get hurt.